Methinks doth quote too much

Yes, again with the quotes...so what.  It's my blog after all, you're not the boss of me.

Trading messages with a friend of mine on Facebook the other day and she dropped this little nugget on me from The Beatles "And in the end ... the love you take is equal to the love you make"  Now, I may have been dropped on my head a few times when I was younger.  I know I hit my head or was hit in the head a number of times for sure, so I am never sure about my memory and some cognitive skills (my way of saying I can be clueless) but at first I didn't know what these lyrics really mean. Mean to me. 

It looks like one of those deceptively easy riddles that really isn't that easy.  I always hated those kind of questions on tests.  Train A leaves Halifax at 9:00 heading west at 120km/h and .....blah blah, what colour is the train?  Get the hell out of here!!  True story, I answered one of these stupid ass questions once with a picture of an elephant on a tightrope.  Ask a stupid question get stupid answer.  Take that. Anyway, I digress, as usual. Back to said lyrics.  After thinking about it I want to believe it's about equality.  Being equal in a relationship as opposed to battling the ever balancing scales. Tipping in your own favour so you can "win".  I think we all do it to varying degrees in all sorts of relationships. And that in itself isn't a bad thing but it can become one over time.  A cumulative erosion if you will that saps the good out of us and out of the relationship.  

Just to be clear, I'm not giving relationship advice....said the divorced guy.  I know nothing except what I know for myself.  Chaos theory rules the roost when it comes to relationships in general so who am I to tell anyone anything.  But if I can make an observation, if we all spent a little time with empathy and understanding as our starting points, maybe, just maybe, we can be a bit happier in the "us" part of our lives. Of course I would be remiss if I didn't quote another lyric from a Beatle "Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans".  Sing it John!!!!  See what I mean about the answers being out there.  Isn't life grand that way?  I can tell you that this, above all else, is what wore away my marriage.  Everything else getting in the way of continuing to build a relationship. Work, money, kids, yard work, cats...and so on.  These things all happen to us daily, that's normal, leaving nothing for the "us" to build on...say hi to my divorce lawyer.  So here I be. What will happen to me in the next half of my life?  I have no idea but I'm looking forward to it happening.

Take a moment to find an interview that Mandy Patinken did on "Q" with that douche bag Jian Gomeshi.  They were talking about The Princess Bride and Mandy said something that struck a deep resonance with me.  Talking about the enduring appeal and magic of the movie and he recalls telling his wife at a screening that he didn't have the time to dream that he would be in something so wonderful.  He hadn't had the chance to even dream about doing this film.  Well, kick me in the throat that is brilliant.  Pie in the sky dreaming that might make your eyes roll...I don't care.  That is exceptional.  That is inspirational.  I don't know what's coming but I am never going to be afraid of it.

"Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6JGp7Meg42U